He makes a prolonged eye contact
If you notice that a male coworker is staring at you, especially when they think you're not watching, it might show they like you. If you accidentally make eye contact and they quickly look away or give you a shy smile, it might be a stronger sign. However, looking at you could mean nothing in itself, so look for other signs in addition to this one.
He initiates conversations
If the coworker has a romantic interest in you, they will try to talk to you more often. They might ask questions about your personal life, ask your opinion about a recent situation, or share their impression about a new movie.
If the guy frequently approaches you - in the lunch area, in the office before a meeting, or stops by to share news he's just heard, and is willing to engage in a long, thoughtful conversation, it is a clear sign they are interested in your personality.
He is often around you
If a male coworker often shows up next to you, it can indicate romantic interest. Time is our most valuable resource, so when a coworker seems to find reasons to be around you more often, it might indicate that they treat you differently than other people in the office.
Your colleague can show interest in you in many ways. Maybe, they invite you for lunch, approach you as if by chance, or come up to have a conversation when they have a minute. Or, they might give you a ride home or offer help with an important project. If a coworker prefers your company to spending time with male colleagues, it might show they're really into you!
However, pay attention to quality time spent together (i.e. when you simply share the office doing your own work, this doesn't qualify as romantic interest).
He treats you differently
If the coworker treats you differently than other colleagues, it is a sign they might be in love with you. Say, if they are positive and talkative with everyone and display the same attitude to you, it means nothing. Yet, if they offer you extra help, offer small gestures of kindness they don't show to others, or spend more time around you, it might reveal their interest in you.
Pay attention to the way the coworker communicates with you. A person who has a crush on you might praise you, encourage you when you're upset, and compliment you on your new haircut. If they are super nice and attentive to you but don't treat others this way, it shows their feelings for you.
Interest in spending time together
Another common sign is when a coworker suggests spending time together outside of work, such as grabbing coffee and going for a walk to a local park. They might also invite you to a social event, or suggest going to a music concert. It shows they are interested in building a relationship, especially if the person looks relaxed and enjoys your company.
However, you'll want to make it clear if a coworker wants to spend time with you as a friend or is looking for a romantic relationship.
He shows care
If a man goes out of his way to help you or makes gestures showing that he cares, he is probably into you. For example, they can stay late with you at work to help with an important project or help sort out folders. They might bring you a coffee, your favorite sweet treat, or give you a book you've recently discussed. These small gestures reveal that the guy often thinks about you and wants to show that he cares.
He compliments you
A guy who truly cares for you notices even little things about you. He will be the first to notice your new glasses, a fancy jacket, or a new haircut. As he likes you, he might compliment on your appearance, perfume, or your work on the project. He can give you a humorous compliment to make you laugh. Even if your coworker is scared to show how they truly feel about you, subtle compliments and hints can reveal everything.
He engages with you on social media
If your coworker subscribes to you on Instagram, X, and Facebook, and engages with your posts and stories, it's a sure sign of interest. They want to know more about your personal life and are trying to establish a connection.
Pay attention to how often they initiate conversation online and like your stories and updates. Your coworker might also share personal or funny content with you trying to start a more meaningful conversation or establish a connection. Notice signs of flirting, such as playful banter or teasing. It may indicate romantic interest in you.
Non-verbal cues that your coworker is into you
If you suspect that a guy from work is secretly into you, pay attention to these subtle non-verbal cues to clarify it:
- Open body language - they display open and relaxed body language and uncross their arms and legs when talking to you.
- They might feel uncomfortable - if the man blushes when making eye contact, acts nervous or is too silent around you, it can signify that he is secretly in love.
- Subtle touches - a guy can subtly touch your arm or shoulder as they talk to you or show you something.
- Leaning in - when you are speaking, a man can slightly lean closer to you to show interest in what you're saying.
- Mirroring - your colleague can subtly imitate your posture or gestures, which is a sign of building a connection.
The more signs you notice in your coworker, the higher are odds that the person secretly likes you. Our quick quiz will help you understand if they have a romantic interest in you. However, taking a quiz is only the first step towards finding this out. If you're sure that your colleague has a romantic interest in you, be sure to break the silence and clarify it in a one-on-one conversation.